Domestic Violence -
You Matter... Love Shouldn't Hurt

Purple is the universal color symbol dedicated to Domestic Violence. Domestic violence is a behavior pattern based on the use of power and control of one person over another. Domestic violence is a pattern of physical and psychological abuse, threats, intimidation, isolation or economic control over another person in the context of dating, family or household relationship. On average, more than three women are murdered by husbands or boyfriends in the country every day.

The Mission of "You Matter... Love Shoudn't Hurt" is to:

  • Raise awareness of Domestic Violence.
  • Educate the Community against Domestic Violence
  • Direct victims and their families to resources which help provide freedom from violence.
  • The Saint Pascal Domestic Violence Ministry meetings are scheduled in the West Sacristy from 7:00 to 8:00 PM on the following Wednesdays:

  • November 14, 2018
  • January 9, 2019
  • May 8, 2019
  • July 10, 2019

  • Saint Pascal Domestic Violence Ministry Awareness Project - October 2018

    Saint Pascal Domestic Violence Ministry invites all parishioners to view the DV Awareness Project installed on our parish grounds. Take a photo of yourself with the survivor images and share on social media.

  • Get help to get out.
  • Stand against violence.
  • Domestic violence awareness
  • Get the word out: Saint Pascal takes a stand against violence.

    We pray for the transformation of our society to stand against all forms of oppression and violence. Especially during the Month of October, we call attention to domestic abuse that impacts our community. It’s important that we all stand up against violence.

    If you are interested to learn more about the Domestic Violence Outreach Ministry of the Archdiocese of Chicago, this link will take you directly to our home page - Domestic Violence Outreach

    Domestic violence in the United States is epidemic! Support groups are very helpful. If someone you know needs help, call:

  • National Domestic Violence Hotline - 1-800-799-SAFE or 1-800-799-7233
  • Chicago Domestic Violence Hotline - 1-877-863-6338
  • Betweens Friends Hotline - 1-800-603-4357
  • Connections for Abused Women and Their Children Hotline - 1-773-278-4566
  • Sarah's Inn Hotline - 1-708-386-4225
  • There is never an excuse for physical, emotional, or sexual violence. Domestic violence is a crime. But there is hope. You can break the cycle of violence. Support and counseling are available close to home. Please call the Catholic Charities parish line 312-655-7106.

    U.S. News & WORLD REPORT

    Women Should be Screened for Intimate Partner Violence, U.S. Panel Advises

    Asking isn't enough -- doctors must also suggest ongoing sources of help.

    By Liso Esposito, Staff Writer - April 27, 2018 at 3:47 p.m.

    Within the last year, have you been hit, slapped, kicked or otherwise physically hurt by your partner or ex-partner?
    Do you feel safe in your current relationship?
    Do you have guns in your home? Has your partner ever threatened to use them when he was angry?
    Are you presently forced to have sexual activities?

    These sample questionnaire items are taken from the HARK (Humiliation, Afraid, Rape, Kick) screen, Partner Violence Screen, the American Medical Association screen and the Ongoing Abuse Screen, respectively. If a doctor or nurse practitioner asks you questions like these during a routine visit, don't be surprised. Your clinician is looking out for your health and safety by following the latest recommendations on screening patients for intimate partner violence, also known as domestic violence.

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    The New York Times

    How Abusive Relationships Take Root

    By Benedict Cary - May 11, 2018.

    “…But often there are subtler, more incremental steps in the development of an abusive relationship, among men and women of all orientations.
    Small demands grow larger
    “It often starts in a very insidious way,” said Patricia Pape, a psychologist in private practice in New York. “He says, ‘Don’t put Sweet-and-Low in your coffee, it’s poisonous.’ “Then, ‘When you wear that nail polish, it makes you look like a fallen woman,’ and ‘That skirt is too short, it’s too revealing.’ Or, ‘I don’t think you should see her, she’s not good for you.’ “You wind up in a situation where he’s telling you what to wear, what to eat, who you can see, how to behave.”
    Each small adjustment made by the victim reinforces this control, Dr. Pape said. One of her patients had a husband who, when the couple was out at a public event, would insist she not look around at the crowd, as he felt it could be seen as flirtatious. “It came to point that when she walked around, she would look down,” Dr. Pape said. “It changed how she walked.”

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